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Wanna be happy? Let these go…

So if there is one thing we all want  it is happiness.  It is our number one end all-be all goal.  You could be a do-gooder doing charity work for your own happiness and giving back or you could be an axe murderer. You have the same goal. Happiness.

You have to be mad to think you will attain happiness from killing someone with an axe. Or maybe you do attain happiness to a point. But you will be killing again to attain more.

The funny thing is is that most people think getting happiness is by getting or being something.  So in a way, they are just as mad as that murderer.

Getting little flickers of happiness from the ‘outer world’ isn’t very lasting. Or satisfying.  Being happy is going to be coming from your inner world if you want lasting and satisfying.

Here is a list of things to drop to help you get there…

Other people’s approval.

That is so a lost cause. The only person you need to be worried about pleasing is yourself.  I mean, really who gives a crap what other people think? Do what you need to do for your own happiness.

Anger & Resentment

They say that anger and resentment is like a poison. But the only thing is the only person that is affected is the person taking it.

Life is too short for either. Move on. Forgive. If the pain of anger and resentment is in you, just let it go. You are only hurting yourself.

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Anything Perfect

There really is no such thing as perfect. Things are always going to be change so there is no reason to expect to stay perfect or get perfect. Jus’ saying’!!

Resistance

To resist is to not allow better things into your life. And you were not put onto thins planet to suffer. You are here to thrive. So believe and accept.  You are not here to have control.

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Judgment

All you need to worry about is yourself. Judging gets you nowhere. It puts your mind into a state you don’t want to be in. You need to be of love and acceptance always if you want to be happy. Judgment of anyone-even yourself-won’t get you there.

Dependance

Your life is yours and you have to own it. You have to take responsibility and make your happiness your goal. It is not anyone else’s responsibility. Sure you may have help from your spouse or whoever, but ultimately it is your goal so you have to fulfill it.

Your Past

Look forward and be in the present working towards your next moment. The past may have shaped you but you can always change what and who you are. So don’t live in your past.

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The Wrap Up

Being happy is really pretty simple. Just be happy. Don’t look for validation.  Don’t look for material things. Be in the moment and enjoy life as it comes to you.

I am not going to beat this subject to death. It is a personal choice and I am helping to show you how to get there.

I am not even the only one that gives this advice.

At the end of the day, I hope you do attain happiness(if you haven’t already) but that will not stop me from being happy. Hoping you will join me.

18 thoughts on “Wanna be happy? Let these go…”

  1. It sounds like you are talking to me! Thank you for reminding me that many of these things don’t serve my purpose and I need to drop them. I especially struggle with trying to be perfect to get other people’s approval (two strikes!). Sometimes it is easy to say than be done, as we all have many false beliefs and memories that keep us from moving forward. But I think the first step is to recognize our garbages like you listed here and worked on dropping them.

    1. I am glad Kyoko that you enjoyed my post. I am so glad that I can help give food for thought or remind humans how to be the best humans they can be. We so get used to thinking in a certain way from our upbringing and it is tough to get thinking another way. But we have got to start. It is the only way we will change our future for the better. Thank you for stopping by and commenting.

  2. This such a bright and beautiful site I love it! Thank you for this well written and relevant article, it is so easy to forget the points you make.

  3. You are right, being happy is pretty simple. But we as human beings with complexities make it difficult.
    Having toxic/negative people in your life can also affect your happiness. It’s a difficult process but the solutions are pretty simple. You just need the will power to do it.
    I think its great to read post like yours that gives us food for thought and make us think about the things we could change in our lives.

    1. Thanks Dira, that is exactly what I am shooting for. And what an awesome way to put it!! Food for thought!! Thank you for commenting and stopping by!!

  4. Brent, I am copying this and pinning it (literally) to my wall. At the moment it is just what I need.

    I am going through several of the above and they’re driven by the person I thought was my partner in crime. We were to do something together. His idea of that turned out not to be the same as mine.

    I am the eternal optimist and have lots of faith in myself to achieve and adapt and try new things so I still believe we can succeed. He has decided we won’t and has created a campaign that ensures his success in non-success.

    So hence the anger and resentment.

    His negativity and unreliability has actually created such a tense situation but I am going to work this out. I push these feelings out and get balanced again until his next pontification.

    Great article and I will view it every morning.

    Ciao
    Helen

    1. I am sorry to hear about your troubles, Helen, and I hope the best for you and yours. Sometimes things just don’t work out the way you planned them but that does not mean that there is not another plan you aren’t aware of yet. Probably better than the one you anticipated!!

      Thanks again for visiting and commenting. I am glad that this was helpful.

          1. And today is bright. The sun is reflecting off the fog bank along the river and the ice on our dam.

            Last time the dam froze over and the ducks came in for a landing, they slid right across the surface and crashed into the dam bank!

  5. Thank you for this! It is very accurate. I know for myself, it has been all about loving myself and appreciating who I really am. I have stopped listening to the voices in my head that say that “I can’t” and now I choose to believe that I can!
    I do believe that anger and resentment come from working against ourselves- we are working in “jobs” but those jobs are not who we are or who we want to be. Taking action and changing the negative things about ourselves is very freeing!

    1. Yes, resistance is not an easy thing to overcome but it can be done. Sounds like you are doing it!! And as long as you understand that the voices are not actually you, you also have a good grasp of what is going on.

      Thank you, Irma, for sharing and stopping by!!

  6. Many good points Brent. I will share with you this quote:

    “If practice makes perfect, and nobody is perfect, then why bother practicing at all?”.

    Lol. But seriously I don’t look to get approval from anyone. I do though like to have things around me to be happy. So for that I need to change and live in the moment like you say. Only then can I truly be happy.

    1. Good points, Owain. thank you very much for stopping by and sharing. It is not easy being happy in that respect and I can see where you are coming from.

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