I found this meme yesterday and just had to share. It may be the key to our need for resiliency.
Of course these type of memes are all over the internet and sometimes kinda funny. This one struck a cord with me, though.
But not for the reasons you think.
Obviously this meme is supposed to be funny for the reason that it is saying you are a waste of breath.
Not very nice, but still original and kinda humorous. I will give the creator points for that.
It can be said that the creator is actually feeling that way and trying to get other people to feel the same way they do, but I digress…
Being one who is not a human acting like the sheeple who is programmed by our society to think as all else think, I saw this meme as an invitation.
A kind of rude invitation, but if you ever watched the show House, you would understand its perfectness.
By the way, where anyone else might use the acronym ‘LOL’ when sharing this statement/meme, I use ‘SALTS’…
Meaning ‘Smiled A Little, Then Stopped’.
My little way of standing out from the pack, with a little rebellious undertone to it. But that is how I shared this post. SALTS.
You like? I cannot remember where I saw it, but it fits me so well, and I use it frequently in my social media ramblings…my gratitude for the sarcastic human who thought of it.
But back to the meme, I don’t see this as an insult but an invitation to work on myself. For myself.
How could I do that? well, if you hadn’t guessed from the post title, resiliency…
Resiliency is, by definition,able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.
I would take that one step further and say able to be proactive and change or adapt before a situation ‘takes’ hold of us.
Fearlessly flowing through life knowing that they got this…
There was a book written called Survivor Personality: Why Some People Are Stronger, Smarter, and More Skillful atHandling Life’s Difficulties…and How You Can Be, Too which would be a must read.
I have added it to my reading list.
The doctor who authored the book had studied resiliency his professional life by interviewing humans who had been afflicted with horrendous misfortune and how they dealt with their turmoils.
He discovered that people can learn resiliency but that it cannot be taught.
What I find is that resilient people (namely myself) are not driven by the conventional rules society has projected onto us. They(I) look to find different ways to deal.
They deal with each situation with a flexible approach that allows them to choose the most resourceful way to be or behave in each situation.
I will take that one step further and say that they respond to the world based on outcomes and situations they desire. They have the self confidence to know what they want and go after it.
You can even say that they do not have or do not listen to that inner voice telling them the point of view or action to take in a situation. Their inner automatic response system.
Which makes them truly free to discover deeper their inner happiness.
These resilient people will be both kind and selfish, deceptive and honest, open and guarded. But for good reason: they are shaping their own lives to their liking.
Holosync and Thresholds
The book name above in green is a link if you do not wish to partake in Holosync and just want to read the book.
Moving along, the book gave me a lot of the fodder for this post. There were breakthroughs that occurred reading the chapters in the book and I am only about halfway through.
I am looking forward to more.
That and an unexpected meeting with an old friend with some simple observations and actions he took to broaden his horizons…
Everything happens for a reason, right?
Back to our topic.
I, for whatever grateful reason, am a resilient human. I still follow the rules I need to so as not stand out to the point of losing jobs and getting arrested, but a free thinker just the same.
As matter of fact, I am almost half a century old and have never been arrested or suspected of anything. Yeay, me.
But I can tell that I think differently than the people around me.
So to say that you have to be a bad person to be resilient is just not true. Just a bit rebellious.
So another reason why resiliency is so awesome? Less resistance.
When you are a free thinker, you have mastered how to lessen resistance. I mean, resistance is the source of all discomfort in our lives.
Resistance would be wanting to do something outside of your usual ways, but your past beliefs you have grown up with tries to curtail your acting on these new ways.
Inner conflict. That’s resistance.
Resistance is also trying to control something you don’t have and never will have control over.
See , resilience is not controlling a situation but evaluating and taking the course of action with the least consequences. But you are in control of the situation as you are seeing the situation.
Meaning you are in control because you are not acting using the rules and beliefs you grew up with. Your automatic response system. You are THINKING!
Ain’t that awesome?
So if you just look at an unpleasant situation as just what it is, you can move forward and master it. Just notice it. Don’t put any meaning to it, just watch. Like a curious baby with a new toy.
You notice I said don’t put any ‘meaning’ to it. Whatever ‘meaning’ you attach to this whatever is what you have assigned to it. Meaning like good, bad, awful, sexy, whatever…
And you don’t have to follow anybody else’s lead. This is your world, too. You can do things the way you want.
But in this way, you are controlling your life. You are creating your heaven. You are winning life in that you are creating it and not just letting it happen to you.
That is being resilient.
As I said earlier from the doctor’s observations, resiliency cannot be taught but can be learned, so I don’t wanna just beat a dead horse here.
But I want to make you aware.
That is how my breakthroughs happen. Maybe everybody’s breakthroughs happen that way. Through awareness.
So I hope that I have passed on some incredibly enlightening advice to all reading this. Let me know in comments below. Plus you can share for the sake of helping others through some not so ideal times.
Resiliency. It is how life is supposed to be lived. Thinking. For yourself and by yourself.