So a reader asked me to to help him with his addictions. At first, I was quite honored. But after re-reading what he said, then I thought different. I didn’t think he had addictions at all. Addiction is a medical condition that is characterized by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences. This is what he wrote:
“I have lots of addiction. None of them are harmful to my physical health but. I am having problems with my desires. They just lead me. And I honestly don’t know anything what to do about it. Will you have a post regarding to it? Maybe I will feel better after reading it.”
So this is my answer to this writer. You don’t have an addiction. You have a limiting belief.
If you don’t know what a limiting belief is, then you will be very enlightened by this. A limiting belief is something thought by you that holds you back in life. There are probably millions of them, but they are generally brought up as something that holds you back from your ultimate happiness and having a supremely optimized life. Where do you get them? Friends, family, teachers in your school, the TV set in your living room. They come from anywhere and everywhere. To stop limiting beliefs you have to be aware that they are out there.
Anyways, back to the subject at hand. You are saying that you want to do things that are not detrimental to your health and you have not stated that they are damaging in any way to anyone else, so these desires are more positive things. And they lead you.
Maybe I am reading into this a bit too much but it sounds to me like you want to do things and you stop yourself(when you can) from doing these things or just feel bad about following and accomplishing your desires. Why?
Could you possibly have been taught by your family or mentors early in life that following your desires is bad and you adopted a belief that ALL desires are bad? Or maybe you just don’t think you are worthy of being able to follow your desires. Or maybe that other people can do X desire better than you?
Any of those sound familiar to you? Maybe one or two of those(and there are SO many more) just shifted a little bit in your head because you just shined a big spotlight on them. If maybe this post triggered just a light bulb to come on in your head, you have taken the first-and hardest-step. Being aware of this limiting belief. Gaining awareness of yourself and your thoughts and knowing that your thoughts are not you is the first part of an epiphany that will lead you to a better life.
Now the easy part: getting rid of the disempowering and limiting belief. Prove your thoughts wrong. Flip them around. Use affirmations. Realize that you are 100% responsible for your own well being. Realize that you as a human being and a soul are just as deserving if not more of accomplishing a task for YOU as anyone else.
This may not make sense to you, but it should. Limiting beliefs are as common as sand on the beaches but do not have any power over you once you know what they are and take steps to delete, clear and destroy them from your mind.