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How to release the Imposter Syndrome

I had heard about this ‘condition’ and learned of its meaning, just by accident, while learning of something else. Never put too much thought into it as I was focused on something else at the time..Then yesterday, it popped back into my head while I was thinking of my latest accomplishments…like it wasn’t me. But it was. IMPOSTER SYNDROME!!

I had it!! Jeez!! And I am just now realizing this?!?

Odds are pretty good that you will, too as it is estimated that 70% of Americans do.

I have no idea where whoever came up with that statistic.

Kinda like 99% of all constipated humans don’t give a crap.

Well, duh!!

Anyways…Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon or fraud syndrome) is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

Has this happened to you? You are in a room full of ‘experts’ on something you are to speak to on that same something and you all of a sudden feel like your head is going to explode as they all point at you like Donald Sutherland in Invasion of the Body Snatchers?

Yeah, me neither. Well, not in quite that intensity anyways. I did have a job at an upscale hotel where people looked to me for answers for Event Technology and Information Technology so you kind of had to sink or swim. I swam for 6 years. Then I got tired of being depended on so much so I gave up that life and got out of that pond. Totally unrelated.

When I had that epiphany in the park yesterday, though, that I knew I was afflicted?  I felt a shift in my psyche.  A light bulb popped on. Things were literally somehow clearer,  different.  They  still are.

That is why I wanted to write to you about this…

It is awesome when you can learn from someone else’s pain or suffering, ain’t it?

As soon as I became aware I had it, it started going away.

Shine the light on something and if it knows it is not supposed to be there, it will go away…

I found multiple articles on how to alleviate this silent confidence killer from you on Google. 

But what worked for me? Just awareness of it.

Awareness is freakin’ awesome!!!

I am literally living  a different life now. I feel lighter, almost. It’s really amazing. It’s like curtains are pulled back from in front of my eyes…slowly.

Every human should feel this good…all the time.

If you have something to share concerning this post, feel free to comment.  I would love to hear from you. And please share this if you think it can help someone…kinda like I just did.

No exactly like I just did…

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Thank you, fellow humans for all you do!!

 

36 thoughts on “How to release the Imposter Syndrome”

  1. Thanks for sharing! I’ve experienced this in little increments, nothing major though.
    Every now and then someone will ask me for an opinion about something and I’ll be like “Wow, you see me as knowledgeable on the subject and want to know about it from me.” It’s a great feeling. Quora is a good site to get the feeling time to time.
    I didn’t know it had a name lol.

  2. Wow.. I am so there to. I get to feeling I am not that knowledgeable about what I am working on but in actuality I am. Thank you for putting this info out there. Good food for thought.

  3. lol. I’ve never been accused of being a high achiever so I’ll never get imposter syndrome, I guess,
    People do wear a lot of masks to protect themselves at times. I know I’ve tried to put on the tough guy mask even in times where I’m scared.
    Thanks for this.

  4. Great post! Very inspirational and something that certainly should be shared with the rest of us. I love how you wrote that when you shine a light on something that isn’t supposed to be there, it goes away. That is a remarkable sentiment and something that I will keep in my thought bank. Thank you so much for this!

    1. My pleasure. As you read, this was a personal life changing event for em and I hope it hopes many other people as well. thank you for the comments. Cheers.

  5. You had me at invasion of the body snatchers! What a great movie… seriously though, I agree that awareness is a great tool. We all need to step back and view ourselves from 3rd person point of view. In other words, we need to step out of our ego and see what it is up to! Thanks for the cool post

  6. Wow, I’ve never heard of Imposters Syndrome before! I don’t recall having the same experiences as you, but I’m 99% sure I’ve had similar experiences, I just can’t think where and when, it’s driving me crazy. Anyway, this is an eye-opening post and I’m glad you put it up for us. I like your writing BTW, really easy to read, keep up the good work 🙂

  7. I still don’t know if I have the imposter syndrome.

    I am just tired that people keep thinking that I should have known better or that I am able to do everything.

    I need my rest and let them do things themselves. What do you call this symptom?

    1. That sounds like they have personal problem, Arief as far as your second paragraph there. As far as your question, that is just called delegation and grow up…not a symptom-just how it should be-don’t worry. LOL

      Thank you for your comments.

  8. Awareness is the first step in achieving anything. And shining the light on problems CAN produce solutions. Go forth, my man.

  9. Gain knowledge again today! I have not known that there is a phenomenon like this called imposter syndrome! I think I have a little bit symptom of it. Thanks sharing this informative post, now I can follow your advice to release it.

  10. Wow! This is really informative. I am not aware of Impostor Syndrome until now. I do hear the doubts and fears on occasion, but I never paid attention to it. As you said, now that I am aware of its existence I will purposely put a spotlight on it when it occurs again. This so assuring that others felt or have experienced this as well.

    Thank you so much.. I shared it on my twitter!

    1. It is awesome that you have trained yourself to not pay attention to that unnecessary chatter. Not many can say that. It obviously does you well. Thank you for the comments and shares.

  11. Hello!

    That’s inspiring post I really enjoyed reading, thanks for putting all of this information appreciate your hard work, keep up the good posts.

    Cheers, Ehab

  12. Unfortunately, I think I have this problem or one of similar characteristics. Depending on the room I am in I can blend in with my knowledge of certain matters. Worse yet though is that I can usually BS my way through situations I know nothing about either!

    Which one is worse? ha

    1. Kurtis, I do a pretty good job of BSing through some social situations and maybe to my detriment as well. Should we see it as BSing when we can blend in? Good question. I think We should see ourselves as accomplished no matter what. This is a skill as well, BSing is. So we are still awesome. nothing is worse, just one maybe better than the other. Thanks for the comments.

  13. This is a great post you have here! Very informative but also pretty funny! I truly enjoyed reading this post. I’ve always felt a little bit of it (the phenomenon) but never knew that there’s a word for it! We are all super busy human beings and we are always stressed up about something or not satisfied with something (mainly the works we’ve done). I think we just need relax a bit and find some confidence!
    Thanks for sharing!

    1. thank you for the comments, Liv. Yes, confidence. We should Realize that we are all special in our own way and see that as our special. And of course, relax.

  14. Years ago, I was reading Pauline Rose Clance “Impostor Phenomenon.” That’s some serious issues people have to deal with.

    What amazes me is you are so good, yet you can not accept the fact. Well, I guess different people different demons.

    But what if we just refuse to have demons. Turn on the light, and if it’s not meant to be here, it’ll go away. There is a lot of truth in those words.
    Open your eyes and see. Touche’, Brent.

    I agree people have to learn not to give a damn. Don’t concern yourself in everyday life with what people think of you, who cares. All of the negative thinking is a waste of time any which way you look at it.

    The way I see it, if it’s good enough for you, it sure as hell is good enough for me.

    Do I worry sometimes? Yes, I do, but that’s just a human reaction to life around us.

    Here is a IP scoring pdf for everyone who would like to know how close or far from IP you are.
    http://paulineroseclance.com/pdf/IPscoringtest.pdf

    Another insightful blog post, great job Brent. Keep being awesome.

    Cheers friend,

    -Danyel

    1. Thanks for all those awesome insights, Danyel, and the pdf. I hope some people can gain some insight from that as well or along with, I guess. Why people get the feelings of self doubt is sad but apparently how God designed us and He had his reasons: To give us something to do. Would we realize our greatness if we just had it? Nay, I think not. We had to fight this battle to see our true potential and cherish it. It’s like our first car: Did we buy it or was it given to us? We would value and take care of it better if we bought it ourselves. thank you again as always.

  15. Wonderful, I believe everyone would experience this syndrome at least once in their lifetime, even if it’s just temporary. I sometimes feel like there are so many things that I can improve about myself and achieve.

    Surely most times we are well qualified for the part, then self doubt start kicking in. I say we can do it, when it kicks you, kick back. We have minds that just need a little gym time to realize how strong they really are.

    Thank you, this post reminds me that there are many persons out in the world with similar traits and personalities. We aren’t much different after all, are we?

    1. All very good points, Desron. thank you for the comments. I agree that we all still have the same things to deal with in life yet different in our own way. it’s how we deal with them that has to be different,too.

  16. I think everyone goes through phases where they feel unequal to the task at hand…or the praise of a job well done. Very few are comfortable with praise or responsibilities. I know I am still developing the skills of being ok in the moment I am in. It is a good place to be.

    1. yes it is an awesome place to be!! I enjoy it as much as possible. But you know if we all just took credit and stopped reading into everything, that would be a big help, too

  17. Interesting article! I don’t think I’ve ever had the imposter syndrome, but I’ve had feelings where if I accomplish something, it must not be anything special. It’s like if I do it, I feel like everyone else can, too. I don’t know if that makes sense! Lol.

    Anyhow, thanks for the informative post!

    1. it does and I know where you are coming from, Amiel. Not sure if that counts or not. But I will say that you should never take fro granted what you know or can do…even if a lot of other people can. Don’t mean that everyone can! Thanks again for your comments.

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